Saying goodbye to the dummy

Dummies are little life savers, When I had my son back in 2010 I was adamant that I wouldn’t allow one to pass my sons lips, I always also sure as hell going to breastfeed but we all know how that turned out.. but around week two Mr S and I both realized a dummy was needed, not all children have one but Kai liked sucking things and around that time I had stopped attempting to fail at breastfeeding (he didn’t really get much from me anyway and used me more for comfort).. but the second that little boy got hold of a dummy, or a gee (Pronounced G-ii) he was happy and content.

But when the time comes, when they get a little older and they become to old for one how do you help them get used to the idea of not having one, Kai and Amelia both lost theirs when they were 3 almost 4 and I am not ashamed at how late we left it, Kai we simply told him that the rash he developed on his upper lip was caused by his dummy and with Amelia she put hers into the bin herself and while she did cry for it during the first bedtime without it, it wasn’t long before they no longer asked.

However Robin is a different matter, she is almost 2 and while she sort of understands what we are saying, she fully doesn’t get that she doesn’t need it when shes had it for most of her life so far, She had started to bite her dummies, we use and adore the mam night time ones, they glow in the dark and I think are the best invention that has been made by any baby product company, but the teats themselves seemed to be a lot weaker than any others so while she was biting away at this dummy, it was slowly wearing down and began to break apart.. and me being me, the paranoid mother who reads to much on the internet and has read stories of dummies breaking and getting stuck in babies throats, decided that this was it, no more dummies.. which is all well and good but she is still very little and doesn’t fully get that she can sleep perfectly fine without them.

So we switched to the Avent brand of dummies (we use their bottles anyway) and have found they are a lot tougher against the jaws of Robin but I still want to say goodbye to the dummy, perhaps maybe not at night time as she simply doesn’t sleep without it at this point in her life and have decided to remove her dummy during the day time and sort of ease her into not having it.

But all of this got me wondering how others help their children transition from using a dummy to not having one at all and I asked a collection of mums who could share their top tips of waving goodbye to the D word.

  1. Bribe– chocolate or a cute new teddy bear, Kelly and Sarah both bribed the dummy of their children and it seemed to have worked for them
  2. “Bribery!! Let them swap their dummies for a present. We told our daughter that the dummy fairy needed more dummies for the babies and she’d bring a present to say thank you. Then when they want the dummies back you can say they’d have to return their present!” – Sarah

  3. “We unashamedly used bribery in the form of chocolate. We’d encourage her to put the dummy in the dummy pot for 5 minutes, with a chocolate button as a reward after. Then gradually increase the time and frequency ” – Kelly

  4. Dummies are for Babies – This one actually worked on Amelia, it was got her to pop it into the bin and I think it worked well for us, allowing them to make the choice while giving them a much needed nudge, Erin, Kate, Irina and Charlotte all did this with a cute little spin on baby birds and hedgehogs to convince them.
  5. “We made up a story of mummy hedgehog having babies that cried and needed dummies to sleep. So our daughter very generously decided to donate hers to them. She got a little cuddly toy in return. Wrote a post about it too!” – Irina

  6. “My three year old really didn’t want to give hers up so we went to the store, bought a cuddly toy of her choice, and immediately after drove to a friends hose to ‘give’ her dummys to a friend’s baby. She became really attached to the toy & seems to like the idea that ‘baby Maddie’ had her dummies now.” – Erin

  7. “We did it by saying the birds needed it for there babies. She found a dummy this weekend 8 months later and demanded we put it outside for the birds to take” – Charlotte

  8. “I subtly started dropping hints about dummies being for babies for a good few weeks in the run up to asking my toddler to give hers up – I framed it as a sign that she was a big girl – and that only she will know when she’s ready to be a big girl. I didn’t pressure her or try to persuade her. Then one day she handed her dummy over to me and told me she didn’t need it anymore as she wasn’t a baby now she was a big girl. Result!” – Kate

  9. The Dummy Fairy (or Santa)– This one I have seen mentioned all the time whenever I bring up the dummy, Louise, Vicki and Georgina all recommend this option.
  10. “My daughter gave up her dummies in the run-up to Christmas one year. We hung them on the tree when we put it up and I told her that they were going to the baby reindeer so the elves could look after them while the mummy reindeer were busy helping fly Santa’s sleigh on Christmas Eve. They left a little present the next day to say thank you” – Louise

  11. “My daughter had just turned 3. We had laid ground work for a few weeks how only babies had dummies. When she was ready to swap them for something special, we put them all in a pot and left them out to be collected by the dummy fairy. Somehow it turned into dumbo collecting them for other little babies. Which he did and left her behind a thank you letter and a ticket to go get a build a bear. It worked a treat” – Vicki

  12. “What worked a treat for us was the dummy fairy, We talked about it a lot before announcing her arrival. Then that evening a little while before bed, we got a special bag and he rounded up all his dummies (inc ones from the car). He hung the bag on his door handle, and in the night the fairy cane to take the dummies to babies that need them, and left him with a thank you present (a Disney teddy and a toy) and a thank you card. He’s literally never asked for a dummy since, and that was about 8 months ago” -Georgina

  13. Going Cold Turkey – Saying goodbye completely, which I personally have found the hardest route because behind this apparent heartless shield I put on, I am a sucker to a crying baby asking for their comfort in the early hours of the morning and through the haze of sleep (Okay I just like my sleep!! sorry) Both Frances and Lucinda bravely tackled cold turkey head on.
  14. “I packed mine off to Nanny and Granddad’s and put the dummies in the front pocket of the bag… They didn’t find them. Job done. The older one got croup and couldn’t breathe so we thought we’d kick her while she was down and take them away and that worked too. So essentially, cold turkey works great. Both were about 22 months I think” – Frances

  15. “Just went completely cold turkey before his second birthday. Got rid of any so I wouldn’t be tempted to give him any if he had major meltdowns! Just stopped one day and he wasn’t too bothered” – Lucinda

As for us, we are still undecided, I feel shes to little to understand dummy fairies and I worry going cold turkey will interrupt everyone’s sleep in the house but like everything with babies no one thing will work for another but I am hoping my little journey into de-geeing Robin might be a long and tired one.

Until next time

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10 Comments

    • Mummy Cat
      March 21, 2018 / 9:15 am

      lucky haha!

  1. Rebecca Greenway
    March 17, 2018 / 8:37 pm

    I did the same with Rosie and told her that there where babies in hospital needed them more. She felt very proud x

  2. March 18, 2018 / 5:31 pm

    This is a great post. J gave hers up on her own with no upset, but I am sure baby M will be a completely different story. EEK!

  3. March 19, 2018 / 1:09 am

    I’m not gonna lie..the whole post I was confused. We call dummies “binkies” in America. Up until I saw your picture I was just really confused haha

    • Mummy Cat
      March 21, 2018 / 9:14 am

      Haha I always forget that things have different words elsewhere!

  4. March 19, 2018 / 2:05 pm

    it sounds so difficult to do. I loved all the tips you gave 🙂

  5. March 20, 2018 / 9:54 pm

    We used avent both times and loved them. Henry won’t have anything else. He’s 2 in July and I don’t think he’s ready to go without one yet. Thanks for including us.

  6. MomOfTwoLittleGirls
    April 2, 2018 / 1:24 am

    My girls gave theirs to the Easter bunny which I guess makes it 3 years ago now!
    #lgrtstumble (sorry I’m late!)

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