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Today is Kai’s eighth birthday, its another one of those days that I sit down and think about a lot of things that have gone on in these past years of life, How quickly time has gone and how unfair it wont slow down for a little bit just so I can enjoy the little things in life.

I remember the day we brought Kai home from the hospital, it was a chilly March day and it was a mixture of weather too, I remember it being misty and it rained but the one thing that I remember the most is the rainbow that greeted us as we took Kai out into the car to begin our journey home and into the scary world of parenthood, it turns out that it was a lot harder than I expected, you are told just how hard its going to be and scoff at it thinking that its easier than what others say.

BUT despite the tough times, he grew into such a little character, always smiling and giggling, he became such a little independent soul and has he got older developed into this amazing boy who is smart, annoyingly funny and so loving to his two little sisters.

How is this tiny little man eight all of a sudden, these years are going so fast!

Today we are off out as a family, the plan was to head to a lazer tag type place but we asked Kai what he wanted to do and he said swimming, they have just started to learn to swim in school and I think he caught the bug, so we are going there and then have a nice meal somewhere in the town, which is also his choice (it will be McDonald’s you watch). His gifts from us this year are Mr S’s old iPad which I wasn’t to keen on letting him have because I worry he will become to attached to it and we will never see him and his own collection of the Harry Potter books which are the new illustrated editions and I am mildly envious of him.

Happy Birthday little man! may all your dreams and wishes come true.

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Dummies are little life savers, When I had my son back in 2010 I was adamant that I wouldn’t allow one to pass my sons lips, I always also sure as hell going to breastfeed but we all know how that turned out.. but around week two Mr S and I both realized a dummy was needed, not all children have one but Kai liked sucking things and around that time I had stopped attempting to fail at breastfeeding (he didn’t really get much from me anyway and used me more for comfort).. but the second that little boy got hold of a dummy, or a gee (Pronounced G-ii) he was happy and content.

But when the time comes, when they get a little older and they become to old for one how do you help them get used to the idea of not having one, Kai and Amelia both lost theirs when they were 3 almost 4 and I am not ashamed at how late we left it, Kai we simply told him that the rash he developed on his upper lip was caused by his dummy and with Amelia she put hers into the bin herself and while she did cry for it during the first bedtime without it, it wasn’t long before they no longer asked.

However Robin is a different matter, she is almost 2 and while she sort of understands what we are saying, she fully doesn’t get that she doesn’t need it when shes had it for most of her life so far, She had started to bite her dummies, we use and adore the mam night time ones, they glow in the dark and I think are the best invention that has been made by any baby product company, but the teats themselves seemed to be a lot weaker than any others so while she was biting away at this dummy, it was slowly wearing down and began to break apart.. and me being me, the paranoid mother who reads to much on the internet and has read stories of dummies breaking and getting stuck in babies throats, decided that this was it, no more dummies.. which is all well and good but she is still very little and doesn’t fully get that she can sleep perfectly fine without them.

So we switched to the Avent brand of dummies (we use their bottles anyway) and have found they are a lot tougher against the jaws of Robin but I still want to say goodbye to the dummy, perhaps maybe not at night time as she simply doesn’t sleep without it at this point in her life and have decided to remove her dummy during the day time and sort of ease her into not having it.

But all of this got me wondering how others help their children transition from using a dummy to not having one at all and I asked a collection of mums who could share their top tips of waving goodbye to the D word.

  1. Bribe– chocolate or a cute new teddy bear, Kelly and Sarah both bribed the dummy of their children and it seemed to have worked for them
  2. “Bribery!! Let them swap their dummies for a present. We told our daughter that the dummy fairy needed more dummies for the babies and she’d bring a present to say thank you. Then when they want the dummies back you can say they’d have to return their present!” – Sarah

  3. “We unashamedly used bribery in the form of chocolate. We’d encourage her to put the dummy in the dummy pot for 5 minutes, with a chocolate button as a reward after. Then gradually increase the time and frequency ” – Kelly

  4. Dummies are for Babies – This one actually worked on Amelia, it was got her to pop it into the bin and I think it worked well for us, allowing them to make the choice while giving them a much needed nudge, Erin, Kate, Irina and Charlotte all did this with a cute little spin on baby birds and hedgehogs to convince them.
  5. “We made up a story of mummy hedgehog having babies that cried and needed dummies to sleep. So our daughter very generously decided to donate hers to them. She got a little cuddly toy in return. Wrote a post about it too!” – Irina

  6. “My three year old really didn’t want to give hers up so we went to the store, bought a cuddly toy of her choice, and immediately after drove to a friends hose to ‘give’ her dummys to a friend’s baby. She became really attached to the toy & seems to like the idea that ‘baby Maddie’ had her dummies now.” – Erin

  7. “We did it by saying the birds needed it for there babies. She found a dummy this weekend 8 months later and demanded we put it outside for the birds to take” – Charlotte

  8. “I subtly started dropping hints about dummies being for babies for a good few weeks in the run up to asking my toddler to give hers up – I framed it as a sign that she was a big girl – and that only she will know when she’s ready to be a big girl. I didn’t pressure her or try to persuade her. Then one day she handed her dummy over to me and told me she didn’t need it anymore as she wasn’t a baby now she was a big girl. Result!” – Kate

  9. The Dummy Fairy (or Santa)– This one I have seen mentioned all the time whenever I bring up the dummy, Louise, Vicki and Georgina all recommend this option.
  10. “My daughter gave up her dummies in the run-up to Christmas one year. We hung them on the tree when we put it up and I told her that they were going to the baby reindeer so the elves could look after them while the mummy reindeer were busy helping fly Santa’s sleigh on Christmas Eve. They left a little present the next day to say thank you” – Louise

  11. “My daughter had just turned 3. We had laid ground work for a few weeks how only babies had dummies. When she was ready to swap them for something special, we put them all in a pot and left them out to be collected by the dummy fairy. Somehow it turned into dumbo collecting them for other little babies. Which he did and left her behind a thank you letter and a ticket to go get a build a bear. It worked a treat” – Vicki

  12. “What worked a treat for us was the dummy fairy, We talked about it a lot before announcing her arrival. Then that evening a little while before bed, we got a special bag and he rounded up all his dummies (inc ones from the car). He hung the bag on his door handle, and in the night the fairy cane to take the dummies to babies that need them, and left him with a thank you present (a Disney teddy and a toy) and a thank you card. He’s literally never asked for a dummy since, and that was about 8 months ago” -Georgina

  13. Going Cold Turkey – Saying goodbye completely, which I personally have found the hardest route because behind this apparent heartless shield I put on, I am a sucker to a crying baby asking for their comfort in the early hours of the morning and through the haze of sleep (Okay I just like my sleep!! sorry) Both Frances and Lucinda bravely tackled cold turkey head on.
  14. “I packed mine off to Nanny and Granddad’s and put the dummies in the front pocket of the bag… They didn’t find them. Job done. The older one got croup and couldn’t breathe so we thought we’d kick her while she was down and take them away and that worked too. So essentially, cold turkey works great. Both were about 22 months I think” – Frances

  15. “Just went completely cold turkey before his second birthday. Got rid of any so I wouldn’t be tempted to give him any if he had major meltdowns! Just stopped one day and he wasn’t too bothered” – Lucinda

As for us, we are still undecided, I feel shes to little to understand dummy fairies and I worry going cold turkey will interrupt everyone’s sleep in the house but like everything with babies no one thing will work for another but I am hoping my little journey into de-geeing Robin might be a long and tired one.

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Firstly I feel that I need to apologize for the lateness of this roundup, February was a bit of a rubbish month in the ways of mental health and actual health but after kicking myself and my anxiety in the butt I wont let it bother me much anymore (famous last words of course) so here I welcome you to last months Glossybox.

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Ciate London Gelology Nail Polish – I love a good polish and if anyone hasn’t been on instagram for the past few years this one is a popular one, I have been looking at it in stores for a while but going for a more cheaper brand because money is tight but having a chance to get to play with a Ciate polish has changed my mind and I am going to get more of it! The larger bottles go for £9 and this smaller bottle goes for £6 so its a little pricey but I feel like this one is worth the price. the shades in each box differ and I got this delightful browny grey shade called Pillow Talk which I have linked above.

Steve Laurant Nude Pop Lip Tint – Lipsticks aren’t my thing, I can never find a shade that I like and I cannot seem to find anything that wont dry my lips up, but this lip tint goes on a bit like a lip balm, the shade is a lot softer than what it looks like in the pot and I actually really like it, it gives a lovely subtle colour to you lips, I feel like I have found a lip product that I actually like.

Studio 10 Beauty Makeup Mist Glow-Plexion – I see a lot of this all over instagram, its a spray that you can put on before and after makeup to keep everything in place, I have tried a Make Up Revolution version of one and I didnt really like it, but I actually like this one, it does the job perfectly and with the weather lately I have needed my makeup to stay put!

Sleek Makeup Devine Eyeshadow Palette – How beautiful are those shades, I love a makeup palette (more so when its friendly on the piggy bank) and this one by Sleek MakeUp is £8.99 which is fantastic for makeup lovers with a budget, they come in different colours, I received the Vintage Romance palette and I am so glad I got this one as the darker the colour the better.

Skin Chemists London Face Serum –  I have used this so much over the past few weeks since I got this months box, with the cold weather my skin has taken such a battering and this face serum has really helped my skin feel a lot better and a lot brighter.

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And that’s what I got in February’s box! as I said at the start I am truly sorry for the delay, but it turns out that snow days make me be a lot more productive than I expected, have you tried any of the products in this months box?

To try Glossybox click here and open up a wonderful new world of fun makeup and beauty products.

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This week the Beast from the East has been giving England a little taste of what cold truly is, we have had such a cold week that its practically been snowing on and off since Tuesday, we’ve had minus 12’s and ice rain in the south west of England with a scary red weather warning there and in scotland.. but us in Essex have had a simple yellow warning of a lot of snow which of course gave me a chance to get out the camera and snap photos..

Its been the worst kind of snow, its like powder and its still coming today, the children had taken the day of school on friday after having been picked up early the Thursday.. hopefully it will go away soon because I am not excited about the cold school runs.

Until next time

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The one thing my husband and I have problems with is picking a name we can both agree on, when we first met we chatted about future children and names that we both liked, I know that sounds really weird but it was a long time ago and I am not 100% sure how the conversation came up but when the time came to it, our first boy was always going to be Malachi (pronounced Mala-Kai) and after much disagreement from family members who kept calling him by his middle name of ‘Frederick’ Kai finally stuck and he suits his name..

With Amelia things were a bit different, during my pregnancy with Kai we decided and found out the gender.. but with Amelia, we did want to know and they tried to see but she had her legs crossed.. I was kinda glad we didn’t know because I worry a little about gender bias with certain people and was scared that if she was a girl, people would forget Kai existed so we sat for ages trying to figure out a girl name just in case.. and .. well she was a girl, around two weeks before the birth I was sitting on Wikipedia.. as you do.. and I was reading about a certain female aviator and suggested the name of Amelia and it stuck.

We then spent a good few years not even thinking about future names, our next boy was always planned to be called Dominic which I have always wanted to use as a name since I worked in a nursery and there was this sweet little boy with the name who really left a mark on my heart after all these years.. but we still had no name for a girl, after discovering we was expecting Robin and just after we found out her gender we settled on the name of Ruby, but there was a slight problem.. I started to hate the way people said it, something just didn’t sit right with me so I suggested to change it, keep with a R name and just not share it with anyone but the only problem was that there aren’t many R names that we liked..

While at a family dinner Mr S and I stood at the patio doors looking out at some birds hopping around in my aunts garden, those birds happen to have been robins, and it was decided a good month before her birth that the newest member of our family would be called Robin.

You plan and prep for this new tiny human to enter the world and often find like me that the hardest decision is just finding a name that’s perfect, I never liked my name, I still don’t.. I also hated the fact that my first name and second name share the same start letter, While we have Dominic for a boy, we are still stuck on any future girl names.. we cannot agree on anything but I guess that’s one of the fun things about being a parent… indecisiveness

What names do you have picked out for any future children, or are you a little like me and are completely stumped!

Until next time

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