While the title of this post might not seem like the most positive thing ever, but I feel it is always best to get things off your chest when they’ve been bothering you for a while.

So here I am, admitting that sometimes I really hate blogging!

There are of course some amazingly wonderful things about blogging, one being the community and the friendships I have gained and rekindled, there is a large amount of supportive people out there but also some really god horrid meanies too.

I hate the stress, I hate the fact that sometimes it’s expected of you to be ‘picture perfect’ and squeaky clean, it bothers me how my inbox is full of people begging for a link to be included into a post I’ve written, I’ve even had someone ask me to include a breastfeeding link and info into a really personal post about why I decided not to and why I’m pro fed is best.

Then there is a certain group online who make it their duty to be unbelievable mean for no other good reason besides to cause damage, I hate how judgmental some bloggers can be and when you dare have a slightly different opinion to the crowd suddenly you yourself are the ‘troll’.

It annoys me that good honest people who work hard every day of their blogging life just get completely shit on and get nowhere while others who put in the bare minimum, buy their followers and get all those deals which so many are desperate for. I hate how some brands won’t even touch you just because of a pathetic little domain number and don’t even look at the content you produce over the number of followers you have.

I dislike how much time it takes away from spending time with my children, and how I’ve now trained myself into thinking about ‘instagramable’ photos when I’m out and about, which is probably part of the reason why I’m refusing to vlog because I know it will take any time away from spending time with them and as a family.

Of course as I said there are some wonderful things about blogging, without blogging I wouldn’t have met my friend Becca who I actually met in person in the summer. I probably wouldn’t have had the opportunities that I’ve had without blogging and I know my photography skills wouldn’t have improved as much as they have.

I’m grateful for what I’ve experienced with blogging but my goodness there’s so much that I dislike about it, I’ve contemplated quitting and switching off Mummy Cat altogether during my low days but realistically I feel that due to my dislikes, I should change things up a bit and just post when I feel like it and not let myself get lower because I’ve left it for a little longer than I anticipated.

Perhaps the small break away from my blog did me good? Who knows…

Either way.. happy November everyone!

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I had the worst September with blogging, I pretty much abandoned my blog and just moaned about it all on social media, the reason why is what I can gather is my brain was rebelling as this time last year I was stressing about Blogtober. Which thankfully I am not doing it this year but try telling my head that!

None of my goals had been met, my views had been the worst since I started and I just didn’t feel motivated to write anything, which is pretty shitty when you have a collection of review posts that need to be posted. But I sat down at the weekend and decided enough was enough and somehow got myself out of this little self doubt bubble.

Complete our Autumn Bucket List –

So far we’ve managed to do one of the things on the list, which is to go collect pumpkins, you can have a little read here if you are interested, we’ve already managed to get one out of the way with our little adventure collecting conkers which you can read here, I am already planning our Pumpkin picking and autumn crafts as I type this!

Be More Positive –

Naturally a worrier, I’ve been dealing with some mental health issues this past few months, its really shown via my blogging or lack there of, I am going to try and be more positive with things, of course this is better said than done. Trying is always important with this, I give up far to easily so hopefully because now its no longer steaming hot and I feel comfortable in my body again, I should start feeling comfortable in my mind.

Continue Reaching Out –

Reaching out to brands is one goal I am continuing throughout the year, I am in the process of updating my email and making it more professional, say goodbye to Mummy_cat86 and hello to Sarah@mummycat, of course I am getting Mr S to help me out with the final tweaks as I am dumb as a post it seems and cannot figure out how to fix things on my own. Give me a parenting problem or photography issue and I can fix it in a flash, technology and blogging, Nope! so watch this space for new emails and more wonderful content.

Prepare for the C Word –

It is literally right around the corner, of course we have Amelia’s birthday to get through first and Memorial day, but I want to get as organised as I possibly can before Mr S and I do our big shop in November. We pick a day, usually the first Monday of November, head to the shops and get things sorted for the children. This year something is very different, we have a car, which we didn’t have last year so we wont be limited in what we can get.  Cant wait!

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Pretty simple goals, I don’t have any social media or blog goals for this month, I just want to get through it and be happy at the end of it. whatever views I get, I am happy.

I just wish my DA would go up a bit more!

Do you have any goals for this month? are you hoping to achieve them?

 

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Well looking back at last months goals, I honestly didn’t achieve many of them, life got in the way along with the summer heat and to be honest nothing really got done, my fault completely but I’m an optimistic person and like to attempt to try again with many of my goals, but I will attempt the ones I didn’t in June along with ones I hope to create for July!

  Go for walks – it’s hot, and I’m lazy so naturally I’d rather spend time in front of the fan and not go outside where the pollen is high and the temperature is horrible, but I want to try and get out more for walks in the morning when it’s cooler, Robin and I used to walk all the time and I don’t know what happened to make us stop, but I want to get back into doing that.

Spend more time with Dann – we both work, he works full time and on his website and sometimes we never find time to do anything together, my work is usually the children and housework so by the end of the day I’m exhausted and just want to crash into bed, but we are trying to spend an evening together once a week, either a movie or simply me sitting and watching him play a game, it’s nice to just chat about stupid stuff going on in the game.

Be more creative – I’m useless, I’m trying to learn how to write calligraphy and other fancy lettering but I am just a complete butter fingers and also not confident in myself with doing it, but I want to continue to learn and start using it in my everyday life for cards and even my bullet journal, which has been forgotten thanks to just being mad busy and not feeling very clever with how I do it.

My blog is going great, but with anything I want to continue to improve it week by week, I’m considering changing up my logos a bit and having look cleaner and better but it does look okay now, I think I’ll always been changing it up and working on it

My main goal for my blog is to just keep writing, I had a slump last week when I just didn’t want to do anything and I really want to prevent that from happening again, I blame the heat and tiredness for that hah.

Anyone else excited about Autumn?

I managed to reach my Instagram goal of 300 followers and I am so pleased! I’ve worked so hard on it lately and I feel like it’s paying off and unfortunately I didn’t reach my twitter goal of 2,000 but these are my social media goals for the following month

Instagram : 400

Twitter : 2,000

I still want to attempt the 2,000 followers, I expect it will remain my goal until I reach it hah! But I’m pleased with the steady growth that’s occurring despite the follow/unfollow that seems to be going on.

And there you have it, my July Monthly Goals!

What have you got down as your goals?

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Today marks the second birthday of Mummy Cat Notes, I still remember the day I made it, it was raining and I had my tiny baby resting on my chest while I sat up at the computer reading other blogs and wanting to start one myself.. I had the name planned but I of course started over on Blogger and made the switch to WordPress early last year, because Mr S also uses WordPress for his website and I wanted to be able to get help when I needed it from him if things went wrong.

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How has year two been compared to year one, well frankly and honestly, its been hard.. on fathers day last year I was told what I said on twitter had upset someone, all I said was that I was proud of my husband working hard and how we didn’t need to rely so much on the government, I probably worded it wrong and like anything on the internet, it doesn’t matter how you say something, someone will take offence to it, I felt insulted and upset and that I was being made out to be a bad person when I honestly do not think that I am, it escalated into being accused of copying another blogger and then finally resting on me being accused of being bully to then end up being bullied myself by those who believe this other person over me, without even asking me for the other side of the story.. thankfully there is the amazing thing known as the block button and I made it my goal to completely block out anyone who associated with those who accuse me and compared to how I was back when it all happened, I don’t care anymore, I have come out of the other side with a smile on my face and know that while some may think I am a horrible person, I have many friends online and in real life and I realize now that those people who seek to make me feel like I am worth nothing shouldn’t even be on my radar and in the words of King Theoden from the Lord of the Rings trilogy..

‘You have no power here’

..but enough about that, I wanted this post to be a positive one because despite the bad times, there has been some amazing times in year two, I FINALLY plucked up the courage and started contacting brands, I was always so fearful of doing it but I made it my goal for 2018 to start doing it and I have done some really fun reviews and posts, and of course have plenty yet to come for year three! its really boost my confidence and I feel like I am stepping in the right direction with my blogging, I still want to keep everything personal, I always wanted to just use it as more of a journal to document days out and silly events along with products that I purchase and want to share, I always find it odd when everyone is obsessed with the selling part of blogging, cant you just enjoy telling your story as well as selling? I get that others want to make this a job but for me, right now and as always, blogging is a hobby that I have always loved, even back when I use to write in my little green notebook… however theses days its more about my children than which celebrity I have a crush on that week/month (Richard Hammond) but blogging now has helped me feel more creative than I have ever been, I am taking more photos and investing more and more time with writing not only here but I have even dabbled in some stories too, none will see the light of day of course but its been so wonderful just being able to stretch my braincells and maybe make me feel a little less of a mombie! I honestly had forgotten how much I love photography until I started my Photograph Sunday series, I make it my mission each week to take a photo of something so that I can add it to the post and its made me really learn how to use my camera and lenses properly and for the first time ever save up to buy my own lens rather than having to rely on my wonderful uncle for his help in that department.

I have a mad year three ahead of me, with meeting the amazing Becca from My Girls and Me in the summer holidays and even going to The London Baby Show in the autumn which I cannot wait to go and meet some wonderful brands and maybe even bump into more bloggers, Year Three is going to be my best year yet, and I am so excited to continue my journal as a blogger, sharing my world with those who want to read it and because I have been watching a LOT of Ugly Betty lately inspire others to create their own little space on the internet to rant and to connect with others.

Happy Birthday Mummy Cat Notes!!

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I feel that I need to share with you what happened to my blog at the start of the week..

…basically I am an idiot…

Sunday was like any other day, I had spent the whole week before being really careful with money because I wanted to make sure I had the max amount possible for when we go away in July so I didn’t spend much.. a few snacks here and of course my gas and electric needed doing but I felt confident that on sunday, I was going into Monday without any money issues what so ever!

During that week I had an unexpected weird transaction on my paypal account, it was a lot for me so I signed into my paypal, put in a claim and thankfully got the money back so when Sunday rolled around, I had £79 taken out of my account without me saying yes to it, I naturally panicked because that’s a lot of money and repeated the same again, I claimed it back but because it was a sunday I didn’t expect anything to go in or go out etc so when someone told me that my site wasn’t there.

Only me, Only I could break things, and amazingly I decided to break my blog a few days before Mr S went away to Sweden for a gaming event so there was this tiny window in which we could fix it, but thankfully, it was sorted.. I had to buy a new scheme with WordPress and hope that everything would go back to how it was before.. it did come back, mainly my old theme at first and some older posts that were dated back to January before I switched over to self hosted.. but thankfully its back and back in time for a important post that needed to go live on the 22nd..

Basically I had cancelled an important payment that broke my own blog, I mean who else could be that stupid haha! but its all fixed and I managed to get that post up in time and I can sit back and relax for the time being.

so let that be a little warning, don’t panic and do something stupid.. read first and always try to laugh at yourself!

until next time

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