I love a good tag, which I feel like I mention every time I do one, but I just love them, its a perfect way of getting to know someone or when you are feeling a little ‘finger dead’ and experiencing a bit of writers block, a tag will always refresh your mind and get you in the mood for writing things down.
Thank you to Gee for tagging me in this lovely little tag about being a Mama and now its onto the questions –
The Mama Tag –
HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU HAD YOUR FIRST CHILD? – I found out I was pregnant with Kai when I was 23, while its not exactly the youngest age, A lot of my family members made a big deal about me being ‘too young’. we had to remind my grandma that she had her first at 17 so she couldn’t really talk.
WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT FOR 9 MONTHS? – Honestly all of it, I struggled with headaches, back pain, leg pain, bleeding, endless Braxton Hicks, Sciatica, hip pain, sickness. I hate being pregnant but I adore babies.
CAN YOU THINK OF ANY GOOD THINGS YOU ENJOYED DURING THOSE 9 MONTHS? – The one good thing I enjoyed above all was probably the ‘nesting’ period and, while many think I am mad, the labour and birth, the best part of pregnancy for me is getting that beautiful screaming pink potato at the end of it.
IN YOUR OPINION, WERE ALL THE THINGS YOU HEARD ABOUT CHILDBIRTH ACCURATE OR WAY OFF? – I was told all sorts of scary stories about labour, so much so that when it happened I panicked, I didn’t want to push with my first child and I was terrified, when I had my second and third I was more experienced, it was still terrifying and I ended up having a panic attack while in labour with Robin, I came out the other side with this amazing feeling, Giving birth is the single most powerful experience of my life. I would gladly do it all over again just to feel that power.
WOULD YOU HAVE HANDLED CHILDBIRTH DIFFERENTLY IF YOU COULD RE-DO IT? – I did redo it and I handled it a lot better than I did with the first, My first was helped along with an epidural, forceps etc but I didn’t want to have that kind of birth again, I did ask for pain relief and was given just the gas and air, with my second and third, I listened to my body and let it do the work, and while I did panic with Robin, her labour and birth was the quickest out of the three purely because I listened.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY? – Pay attention to your mothers instinct, if something doesn’t feel right, always talk to a doctor and if they mug you off make sure you find a different opinion!
WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING A MUM? – All of it, everything about being a mum is hard, you are no rest, no free time and you have to just ‘get on with it’ without complaining.. its endless, from the minute you discover they are on the way you devote your whole life to someone else.
WHAT HAS BEEN THE MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A MUM? – Watching them grow, its hard to see them go from this tiny pink potato to a child and into a teen, but watching them learn new things, find friends and find themselves is an amazing thing.
WHAT WAS THE MOST SURPRISING THING YOU DISCOVERED ABOUT BEING A MUM? – Just how lonely it can be, you loose a lot of friends when you have a child and then with me and my social anxiety its hard to then make new friends.. it can be an extremely lonely being a mum.
WHAT IS THE BEST MEMORY YOU HAVE INVOLVING YOUR CHILD? – Too many, but I think them meeting their sister at the hospital for the first time is up there with the best.
WHAT WAS THE MOST EXCITING MILESTONE? – I think them talking, it changes the relationship a little bit when they start to communicate more, its always a good day when a new words is uttered.
WHAT IS THE WORST THING YOUR CHILD HAS EVER DONE? – Kai has a habit of sneaking into the kitchen and stealing food when he wakes up early, the girls seem to be little angels haha.
WHAT HABIT DID YOU WISH YOUR CHILD DIDN’T HAVE? – Kai has a stupid habit of walking on his toes, we don’t know why he does it but have been asked by the doctor to keep reminding him not to do it, which only works for a few minutes.
Amelia is just lazy, she will find anyway out of something, She isnt lazy at school but at home, she gets Kai to do all the work
and Robin… I just wish she would sleep..
WHAT HABIT OF THEIRS MAKE YOU MOST PROUD? – I am honestly so proud of how kind and generous they all are, they aren’t scared to play with other children at any age.
DO YOU SHARE ANY SIMILARITIES WITH YOUR CHILD? (BOTH PHYSICAL & PERSONALITY) – Kai and Robin both have my grey eyes, I don’t think personality whys they share any with me, but I think Kai is as shy as I was as a child.
WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE YOUR CHILD TO BE IN 10 YEARS? – I would like them to just be happy, what more could you ask for.
IS THERE SOMETHING THAT HAVING A CHILD HAS TAUGHT YOU? – I feel like they taught me not to take any shit from anyone, I am a lot stronger than I think I am thanks to them.
DID YOU IMAGINE YOU’D BE A MUM AT THE AGE YOU BECOME A MUM? – Not really, Kai was an accident.. I sort of hoped to be married and have a house before I had my first child but unfortunately we did things backwards
DESCRIBE YOUR CHILD IN ONE SENTENCE?
Kai – Shy, Excitable, Helpful
Amelia – Artistic, Kind, Emotional
Robin – Outgoing, Funny, Small.
HOW HAVE YOU CHANGED AS A PERSON SINCE BECOMING A MUM? – I think I have become more exhausted, I no longer have the time to do things I wanted to do, I had just started to get a little bit of me back and then had Robin so everything went back to square one.
All the best