How we choose to feed our babies has caused rather heated arguments over the past few years and I really cannot see why, No one asks the mothers why they picked one form or another to feed their own children without criticizing her choice.
I am from a side of the spectrum that gets called out and moaned at for not breastfeeding, and no one has dared to ask why because they assume that I am doing it out of pure laziness or believing my boobs are ‘sexual only’.. not one person stops to think that I did try at one point and it frankly didn’t work..
when you get pregnant you are told almost straight away that ‘breast is best’ and that its easy etc… not many tell you the sheer raw reality that while it is ‘best’ it isn’t always the better choice and it frankly isn’t as easy as they say it is.. it hurts, you can bleed and sometimes in my case your body goes against the norm and doesn’t produce enough milk.
I had so many dreams when I found out I was expecting my eldest Kai, I was naive and no one told me the truth behind those first painful weeks. When I had him i tried my hardest to feed him.. but it went nowhere.
Once I was home and my wonderful midwife saw him and saw how he wasn’t feeding, how he wasn’t loosing his horrendous orange colour and how much of the fact that he wouldn’t stop screaming out of hunger was bringing me down (I was often in tears from pain and feeling like a failure because in my mind, I couldn’t feed him correctly… she recommended I switch to formula and in that moment that I did, he became a happy contented baby (besides from his allergy issue to lactose which we didn’t know if until the 6 month mark) his orange tinge went and he gained weight properly.
My daughter Amelia is a completely different story, from the moment I found out I was expecting I had already made the choice to formula feed from birth and I am glad I did, she was happy and most importantly I wasn’t on the verge of tears everytime I fed her.. And once again when my third baby arrived I stuck with formula.
What I found worse with the whole thing was a woman who had had a baby 1 week ago was finding that her baby was drinking blood, but the group told her to continue with feeding, not even a midwife at a hospital would allow a baby to drink milk with blood in it.
My favorite hashtag to use on social media is #fedisbest and it truly is…
No one should judge you on how you feed you OWN baby, no one should make you feel bad when you have tried but it just wasn’t working ..
You are not a failure for choosing formula!
FED IS BEST!!!
Disclaimer: this is my personal choice, please no hate mail.