How do I cope?

I get asked this a lot, how do I cope? How do I manage having my husband at work and remain at home with the three children during the summer holidays and half terms.. how do I cope with three children in general because lets face it, its not just the children I look after, it’s the house, its the cleaning and its the cat.

My husband travels a lot, he has days when hes off to London for a game related event and I am tasked with the bed time routine all by myself which isn’t an impossible feat, I did a string of tweets a while back talking about how we could easily be both at home or that I could go off to work and.. Honestly… I don’t want that.. I like being the at home parent, Obviously this isn’t knocking on any working mums either, we all parent differently and I like being at home and being the ‘housewife’.

I never intended this to be the way, before I was pregnant with my first child I was working, and I worked hard! I liked working but I unfortunately and unfairly sacked by both my previous jobs, I wont go on about the first one but the second one was truly unfair and unjust..  (I was fired because I accepted a £20 that as it turns out was a fake, we was told to use this special pen to test only £50 notes and nothing smaller)..

But around 3 weeks after that I discovered I was pregnant with my now 7 year old and while I did the odd agency jobs while pregnant.. once he was born we both sat down and talked about what would be best for all of us and it was that I remain at home and look after him and of course we had our second child 18 months later..

Before we even started thinking about baby 3 I wanted to go back to work, the plan was that once A had entered full time education, I was going to get myself a little job during the day while they went to school.. but like any plans, things get in the way.. and that was R.

So I am back at the start of the stay at home parent line, Mr S goes off to work and I am at home making sure everything is in order and that everyone is fed and happy and honestly I am very happy with this situation, I have talked about it before but in recent years I have developed some form of social anxiety (I talk about it here) and I prefer that I don’t have to go out and talk to people I don’t know daily, Although id imagine once i get over that first hurdle i would be okay.. its just taking that first step its the hardest.

So… back to the question at hand.. ‘how do i cope?’… the answer is that I just do, if I didn’t then nothing would get done, I trust my husband when he goes to these events, and I just get on with it while hes gone, yes I miss him but if he was here all the time then .. well .. he would drive me mad!
I am very proud of him working so hard for us to be able to let me be the stay at home parent and I very much enjoy being at home with the children..

Until next time

Mummy Cat.

x

11 thoughts on “How do I cope?

  1. I can relate to this so much. My husband work two jobs to support us as I had huge issues with my last job and had to leave. It so hard and not ideal at all but you do what you have to to make things work. It just makes the time you do have together even more precious xx

  2. I work from home, for two jobs, and my partner works full time. Everything house wise is left to me, which can get a bit much on my own, but he does help and do everything a father should for our little girl. Like you, I ‘just do’; because otherwise, nothing would get done!

  3. I think if you asked most parents how they cope there answers would all be the same – ‘we just do!’ Being a stay at home mum can be extremely isolating, especially with social anxiety as your not forced to interact like you would be in a job. However I feel incredibely lucky that I have the opportunity to be a SAHM as I know so many mums out there have no choice but to work x

    • I do feel blessed that I can do it, I’d imagine if we needed me to work too I’d just get on with that too, it’s probably a grown up thing really, accepting that it’s life and you need to do it rather than complain about it all the time 🙂

  4. It’s hard to be either a working Mum or a stay at home Mum, both have their challenges! I don’t know how I’m coping most days now that I’m back at work after my maternity leave because when I get home in the evening, have to do everything that a SAHM would do during the day! It’s just relentless but like you said, it just has to be done!

  5. I think most parents have no idea how they”ll cope but just get on with it and manage somehow!

  6. Yep I agree ‘we just cope’. I know that not only do I work part time but I am also responsible for the daily life of our two boys. Its hard sometimes but I do feel blessed that I can spend so much time with them

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