Children and Swearing…

As a mother, one of the biggest things that really bother me is when I over hear conversations parents have in front of their children and the language that comes out of their mouths..

Its honestly shocking and embarrassing that they are busy swearing and talking away while innocent ears are within listening distance… I think it bothers me more when, us as parents go out of our way not to swear around their children but they cant even contain themselves from doing it in front of mine..

I know once a child enters school they are bombarded by new words and new children who will not shy away from uttering rude words regularly with out a shred of care.. I remember doing it myself at the sweet age of 8, talking to a girl called Fiona who introduced me to the world of swears and now I know that it wasn’t her fault she knew all these words, but her parents, so once I had my own children, I tried my hardest to keep the swear words to a minimum..

Fast forward to when A was in pre-school, she came home one day and said a word I never would dream of using, its the vile word that begins with C, and I honestly couldn’t believe it, I had no idea where she got it from, until I over heard some chatter and heard the word be passed around so freely..

I don’t understand how its difficult to not use certain words around children, they are like sponges and pick anything up, K once said the F word after hearing me use it once as I dropped something in the kitchen, I didn’t even think he heard me but around Christmas time, he said it and thankfully after we explained to him that he shouldn’t say it, he hasn’t said it since from what I am aware of..

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It isn’t hard to just stop and think before saying things in front of children, even myself will injure myself and in-between a curse change the word to another one.. and then you hear people talk and every other word is a swear word…

I know that everyone parents differently, but I wish people would hold their tongue when surrounded by children, we went to a pub for a meal a few weeks ago and a group of increasingly drunk men kept swearing, without a second thought of their surroundings..

Children don’t need to hear these words, let alone use them.. and I now understand why the strongest word I ever heard my mum use, even today is mild in comparison to what I hear weekly out and about..

What is the one thing that bothers you with being a parent?

Until next time

Mummy Cat.

x

 

17 thoughts on “Children and Swearing…

  1. i’m always so shocked when people swear around my nieces and nephews – their parents included! i just don’t understand the need to use that language in front of children? surely people realise how fast kids take in new words? xx

  2. I remember K running into the room shouting out ‘Oh for F***s Sake’ that once. Thankfully he never did it again, but it does shows how impressionable kids are.

    That said, when most people are out and about they are in their natural, relaxed state, and so might well swear as they would at home, and for them to have to watch their tongues is to take them out of that comfort zone, which is hardly fair.

    Is the onus then on us to teach the kids that these are bad words? I think that’s really what it is, but then even then how do you address that and at what age? Some people say that people who swear do it because they lack the vocabulary and so are stupid, some say it’s all about emphasis, some say it’s really just down to how people use it… So, do you teach kids that context, or do you just tell them that they’re rude adult words?

  3. I gotta hold my hands up, there are times when the words accidentally slip out, but I really try my hardest not to say naughty words in front of them! – Luckily my kids know and I get a good telling off when I do slip!

  4. Yes! I’m not a mother personally but I have nieces and nephews and I absolutely despise when I hear other parents swear in front of their children! I think it’s a nasty habit that should be controlled when children are present.

  5. I hate that my husband swears in front of our daughter. She’s on 10 months old but still, she takes in everything and if he doesn’t stop now it will become a problem. I notice that I swear more now too. I never swore before I met him. I don’t want my daughter saying those words to me.

  6. There are two camps of people I see – those that just slip up from time to time, and those that don’t care that they are swearing in front of their children. I can understand slipping up, especially for new parents, or when out and about in public and therefore relaxing, and it just ‘happens’ but I don’t understand not even trying.

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  7. Hearing children swear makes my skin crawl. There’s just no need for it at all, I get the occasional word can slip out, I’m such a potty mouth myself so I definitely need to be careful when little one is here. Xx

  8. My problem doesn’t lie with the swear words – times are changing and they are so commonplace now at one point they will pick them up. It’s when I see parents berating there children for using words they’ve only learnt from the parents – kiddies don’t know the difference between f*ck and fairy, as far as they are concerned, mummy uses it so I can to. Giving them into trouble for using words they hear around them can only confuse them. At the minute, I swear like a trooper as does my partner – but it’s something I’ve been trying to stop as I hate hearing children swear (slight hypocrite, I know) – if Harrison was to pick one of these words up, it wouldn’t only be our fault!

  9. My parents never told me what words were bad so I never knew…I was afraid to repeat words I learned from kids at school like “puke” because I thought they might be bad! When I did learn, it mostly came from when we would read books aloud in class in 2-3rd grade, and it was an honors program so we read a lot of older and higher reading level books, and we would say “bleep” in place of a curse word. One time someone bleeped “sex” (in the classic Walk Two Moons I think) and our teacher was like, “No, that isn’t a bad word…” I went home and looked it up and the first definition said gender so I didn’t completely understand, either!

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