First experiences of ‘Mum guilt’

Usually I am such a confident mother, I trust my gut and go with whatever my mothers intuition tells me but lately, I have been busy, with the mixture of the Christmas period, new year prep dealing with a clingy Robin and blogging things have taken a back seat, mainly that tiny little voice inside my head that tells me to do things when they are needed..

On the 15th December, around 1pm.. I realized that I had forgotten the children’s Christmas jumpers for the Save the Children Christmas jumper day

I cried… my heart raced and I felt so guilty..

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How could I have forgotten? I had them all ready, but the morning rush must have made them slip my mind and they never wore them to school.. all I could think was the fear I felt whenever I was at school and I forgot it was a non uniform day, everyone else in their day clothes and stupid me sitting there feeling bad about being in my uniform.

I talked to some ladies who I know about it and they did reassure me a little bit, but I couldn’t help but feel so bad for them, when I did go collect them from school I thought perhaps I wasn’t the only one who forgotten, but nope, out of all the other children in the school my two walked out without a festive jumper on and I felt worse..

I hugged them and said sorry so many times but they told me they didn’t care, they had their Christmas dinner and got to make their own hats and had fun..

But I still feel bad.. Mum guilt is a horrible feeling, coupled with anxiety can make it feel ten times worse than it is, so I am going to make sure that going forth to not forget things, make sure I write everything down on the calendar in the kitchen and check it daily..

No more mum guilt for me thanks, and for certain no more forgetting things and then getting anxious over it all.

Have you ever experienced mum guilt? or guilt over something so stupid and pointless?

Until next time..

mummy cat

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20 Comments

  1. January 5, 2018 / 12:00 pm

    I’m sure it’s very normal to feel mum guilt when you forget something, but look at all the times you haven’t forgotten the little things 😍

  2. January 5, 2018 / 1:27 pm

    Oh sarah. When they are older they wont remeber that one time you forgot christmas jumpers. I feel mum guilt a lot when it comes to Rosie. With school and she going to her dads i feel awful about not spending enough time with her. We are mamas and we can so this x

  3. January 6, 2018 / 11:02 am

    I’m not a mum but I’m pretty sure you will forget something at some point cause its all down to being a parent, if you had the parenting cracked to a tea 24/7 then I would take my hat off. All parents make mistakes sometimes but that doesn’t mean to say your a bad parent or should feel guilty 🙂 xx

    Yasmina | The July Journal

  4. January 6, 2018 / 11:46 am

    The case of the guilts is completely normal – I get them all of the time. You are a good mom who is human and will forget things. Being a mum can be challenging but they love you!

  5. January 6, 2018 / 12:05 pm

    I forgot too! He wore last years instead, he wasn’t bothered!

  6. January 6, 2018 / 6:54 pm

    It’s something I am constantly feeling. So, you’re not alone with this…

  7. January 7, 2018 / 9:02 am

    Oh hon. It happens to us all. Mama guilt is a bitch. Just don’t be too hard on yourself.

  8. January 7, 2018 / 4:58 pm

    Mum guilt is the worst but we’re only human and doing our best! X

  9. January 7, 2018 / 9:21 pm

    Ah no I’m so sorry to hear you felt this way! But your children won’t remember the small mistakes you make, they will only remember all those things you do to show them you love them xxx

  10. January 8, 2018 / 8:59 am

    Mom’s are already under so much pressure. Cut yourself some slack lovely!

  11. January 8, 2018 / 10:27 am

    OH BLESS YOu hun, I would woule have felt the same! But your girls sound like they really didn’t mind! I’m forever feeling guilty about things and Tyler isn’t even one yet! :/

  12. January 8, 2018 / 11:43 am

    Isn’t ot weird how instant thr guilt is. We know that everyone does it but when our kids are involvedots 10 timea worse. Thanks for another brilliant post
    Jade xx

  13. January 8, 2018 / 7:40 pm

    I’ve not experienced mam guilt as I’m not a mother, but I can imagine that it sucks sometimes.

  14. January 10, 2018 / 12:15 am

    I’m not a mother but I can definitely imagine this. I’ve certainly seen my own mom experience it, but I always assure her I don’t blame her and it’s often not something that’s her fault!

    • Mummy Cat
      January 10, 2018 / 4:50 pm

      It’s such a hard thing and sometimes the smallest thing can cause it xx

  15. January 10, 2018 / 2:46 am

    Try to remember that you are only human and as such will make a mistake from time to time. These are the things your kids will remember looking back – they will recall all the amazing things you did and how awesome their mother was
    Britt | http://alternativelyspeaking.ca

    • Mummy Cat
      January 10, 2018 / 4:49 pm

      Thank you 🙂 that is very true x

  16. January 12, 2018 / 7:51 pm

    This is the kind of thing that us mum’s feel bad about but the kids don’t really care. Once they’ve been at school for five mins they forget all about what they’re wearing. Don’t sweat the small stuff, your kids know that you’re an amazing mum & that’s all that matters xx

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