Donating My Eggs

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Since I can remember, I have always wanted to do something that helped others have children, I wasnt sure if I was going to go down the route of surrogacy, I have sat and read a load of information with that subject and keeping in mind that this was before I had my own children, it sounded like the perfect thing for me back when I was younger, I had this urge to experience pregnancy but back when I was a bit younger I dont think I was mentally ready (who is haha?) to have my own children..

but the only issue I had was mainly that I didn’t know where to even start, and it wasn’t until I had Robin that I didn’t reconsider it, mainly because one of my wonderful friends in my facebook baby group shared she herself was donating her eggs and suddenly the doors got opened up, I asked her all sorts of questions and the main one was who she was using to do all this with and she recommended Altrui and gave me a run down on what to do.

On the site there is a little questionnaire to fill in about yourself and your life, how many children you’ve had and other health related questions, one of them was if I have had issues with mental health and I decided to be completely honest and say that I do have social anxiety, there was also a section for what your personality is like and my personality now is miles different to what is once was before I had children so I had to ask Mr S to tell me what I was like.. shared hobbies and other bits and pieces.. it all felt so good to finally get it done after sitting on it for months thinking over things,

Mr S is so supportive of it all, his main worry was just that if they damage my ovaries when they remove the viable eggs because we aren’t done with our family just yet and one of my biggest worries is to not be able to have children and he doesn’t want me to do this and have that taken away from me, which I completely understand but I told him not to worry and they do this kind of thing all the time so the likelihood of something going wrong is minimal and of course I would need to have injections which with me being a complete coward I want him to do as I do not think that I am capable of doing myself.

I filled it all in and sent it off and on Tuesday I got an email back and despite the fact that I have had three healthy children, zero health issues besides mental health.. I am to fat to donate my eggs, I felt really down.. something I have always wanted to do now feels like its impossible, but they want me to lower my BMI only by 10, and I wish for the day when people stop using BMI, because we all know how useless and pointless it is and I now feel stuck..

So I did something even I am suprised by, I contacted my old Slimming World consultant and asked if there would be an issue with me coming back to the group..

This will be a long and hard journey but I want to one day help a family out there who are so desperate for a child have their dream come true, and if that means fighting my anxiety by going to Slimming World every week… if that means working my fat arse off.. I will do that.

on the 30th I am going back, only because my husband is away next week and I want to go alone without any children..

wish me luck..

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12 Comments

  1. May 18, 2018 / 12:05 pm

    Oh wow Sarah, such a wonderful thing for you to do. Also, that BMI rule is dumb! Good luck with your slimming journey though. You will help so many families make their dreams come true.

    • Mummy Cat
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      May 19, 2018 / 8:42 am

      its pointless as they dont even take into fact that we have bones and organs that also weigh, i know my goal and am anxious but confident to reach it! i cant let my weight get in the way of something thats been in my mind for years, i just didnt think it would be such a big issue

  2. May 18, 2018 / 3:49 pm

    I’m sorry to hear that. Maybe it was a sign that right now isn’t the best time?! I’m not sure. I hope you are able to have as many children as you would like 🙂 You got this is all I can say. Best of luck with working out!!! ((hugs))

    • Mummy Cat
      Author
      May 19, 2018 / 8:41 am

      its just frustrating, but I am excited to work towards it and help people.

  3. May 18, 2018 / 7:56 pm

    That’s ridiculous that they won’t let you donate your eggs, I hope you get to achieve your wish one day!

    • Mummy Cat
      Author
      May 19, 2018 / 8:40 am

      it didnt even occur to me that my weight might have been a problem, theres no health issues in my family and all my grandparents got to good ages, i have a lot of work ahead of me

  4. May 19, 2018 / 9:04 pm

    Much love and luck being sent your way! You’re amazing for taking the steps to accomplish this goal of yours.

  5. May 20, 2018 / 8:54 am

    This is such a lovely thing to do. Something I have always wanted to so. Good on u babe x

  6. May 22, 2018 / 10:32 am

    Wow that’s so kind of you and you’re doing an amazing thing as well! Good luck and I can’t wait to read about your journey, I’m so proud of you! x

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  7. May 22, 2018 / 3:26 pm

    I pray that one day you get to go through with this. I don’t have any fertility issues that I am aware of, but I have suffered a miscarriage before, so I know from personal experience that you could do such a beautiful thing for someone one day.

  8. Sarah
    May 22, 2018 / 3:59 pm

    Oh wow that’s so lovely x

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