Another month is long gone, and I am late with this post but that’s no matter, better late than never as they say. Looking back at last months goals, a lot of them didn’t happen, I didn’t spent much time with Dann and I damn well didn’t go for walks, it has simply been far to hot for that!

I did however reach my twitter goals finally after what felt like forever, I didn’t get my Instagram goals but, lets be real here, that is one of the harder ones to crack.

August itself is going to be tough, Dann is away a lot and its the final few weeks of the holidays from school, we all know how on edge the children can get when they’re away from school for so long, It is honestly safe to say this month is full of stress and exhaustion.

Life –

Be More Positive – Anxiety has hit me a lot last month, I don’t know why because July was such a good month for me personally but I haven’t been the best in the mental health sense, I have let my fears get the better of me and honestly felt like I wanted to stop blogging all together, I haven’t really told anyone about it because I didn’t want to really bother anyone, but August, despite the mad stress that its going to be, I want to be more positive.

Loose Weight – I know, I know, I say this a lot, but this time I feel different, I feel confident and determined to actually do something about my fat, I tried on a pair of jeans and they didn’t fit, so I decided to, rather than buy a bigger size, to try and I use the word try because I feel like its less stress, to loose some weight with calorie counting, as of today I have lost 5lbs … so here’s hoping I can continue and reach my goal, which has been set by my little calorie tracker as Christmas Eve..

Save Money – I think we all need to do this from now, as in four short months time the Big C is back and I want to be prepared!

Blog –

My blog is going okay, I guess I am happy with it, I have just started changing things up a bit and I like what I have done with the header, which I made myself, nothing fancy but I am pretty pleased with how it looks and fits, writing is going fantastic, I installed Yoast to help with SEO and making sure everything makes sense, and I feel like its made a little bit of a difference in view count, But of course it is early days as its only been one week.

I have been obsessed with Pinterest again, I never realized how much of a useful tool it could be and I find myself wasting hours pinning and reading posts from it, and this has also helped my blog views as well.

My photography is getting better, I try and take my camera with me whenever I go out because you just never know when its needed and I love it, I have tried to vlog but because I am so into the moment it never happens.

Social Media –

Pretty happy with my social media, I hit my twitter target of 2000 so realistically, because we have four months until the end of the year, like to hit at least 2300 by the start of 2019, its a big goal in a short space of time but I do feel it is achievable, Now with Instagram, I doubt very much it will grow how I want it.

I also want to start to work on my Facebook page as well as it sort of got pushed aside in favor of Twitter which I find a lot easier to handle.

All these social medias are just exhausting!

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What are your goals for this month?

 

 

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I love a good tag, which I feel like I mention every time I do one, but I just love them, its a perfect way of getting to know someone or when you are feeling a little ‘finger dead’ and experiencing a bit of writers block, a tag will always refresh your mind and get you in the mood for writing things down.

Thank you to Gee for tagging me in this lovely little tag about being a Mama and now its onto the questions –

The Mama Tag –

HOW OLD WERE YOU WHEN YOU HAD YOUR FIRST CHILD? – I found out I was pregnant with Kai when I was 23, while its not exactly the youngest age, A lot of my family members made a big deal about me being ‘too young’. we had to remind my grandma that she had her first at 17 so she couldn’t really talk.

WHAT WAS THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING PREGNANT FOR 9 MONTHS? – Honestly all of it, I struggled with headaches, back pain, leg pain, bleeding, endless Braxton Hicks, Sciatica, hip pain, sickness. I hate being pregnant but I adore babies.

CAN YOU THINK OF ANY GOOD THINGS YOU ENJOYED DURING THOSE 9 MONTHS? – The one good thing I enjoyed above all was probably the ‘nesting’ period and, while many think I am mad, the labour and birth, the best part of pregnancy for me is getting that beautiful screaming pink potato at the end of it.

IN YOUR OPINION, WERE ALL THE THINGS YOU HEARD ABOUT CHILDBIRTH ACCURATE OR WAY OFF? – I was told all sorts of scary stories about labour, so much so that when it happened I panicked, I didn’t want to push with my first child and I was terrified, when I had my second and third I was more experienced, it was still terrifying and I ended up having a panic attack while in labour with Robin, I came out the other side with this amazing feeling, Giving birth is the single most powerful experience of my life. I would gladly do it all over again just to feel that power.

WOULD YOU HAVE HANDLED CHILDBIRTH DIFFERENTLY IF YOU COULD RE-DO IT? – I did redo it and I handled it a lot better than I did with the first, My first was helped along with an epidural, forceps etc but I didn’t want to have that kind of birth again, I did ask for pain relief and was given just the gas and air, with my second and third, I listened to my body and let it do the work, and while I did panic with Robin, her labour and birth was the quickest out of the three purely because I listened.

WHAT WOULD BE YOUR ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO IS ABOUT TO HAVE A BABY? – Pay attention to your mothers instinct, if something doesn’t feel right, always talk to a doctor and if they mug you off make sure you find a different opinion!

WHAT HAS BEEN THE HARDEST THING ABOUT BEING A MUM? – All of it, everything about being a mum is hard, you are no rest, no free time and you have to just ‘get on with it’ without complaining.. its endless, from the minute you discover they are on the way you devote your whole life to someone else.

WHAT HAS BEEN THE MOST REWARDING THING ABOUT BEING A MUM? – Watching them grow, its hard to see them go from this tiny pink potato to a child and into a teen, but watching them learn new things, find friends and find themselves is an amazing thing.

WHAT WAS THE MOST SURPRISING THING YOU DISCOVERED ABOUT BEING A MUM? – Just how lonely it can be, you loose a lot of friends when you have a child and then with me and my social anxiety its hard to then make new friends.. it can be an extremely lonely  being a mum.

WHAT IS THE BEST MEMORY YOU HAVE INVOLVING YOUR CHILD? – Too many, but I think them meeting their sister at the hospital for the first time is up there with the best.

WHAT WAS THE MOST EXCITING MILESTONE? – I think them talking, it changes the relationship a little bit when they start to communicate more, its always a good day when a new words is uttered.

WHAT IS THE WORST THING YOUR CHILD HAS EVER DONE? – Kai has a habit of sneaking into the kitchen and stealing food when he wakes up early, the girls seem to be little angels haha.

WHAT HABIT DID YOU WISH YOUR CHILD DIDN’T HAVE? – Kai has a stupid habit of walking on his toes, we don’t know why he does it but have been asked by the doctor to keep reminding him not to do it, which only works for a few minutes.

Amelia is just lazy, she will find anyway out of something, She isnt lazy at school but at home, she gets Kai to do all the work

and Robin… I just wish she would sleep..

WHAT HABIT OF THEIRS MAKE YOU MOST PROUD? – I am honestly so proud of how kind and generous they all are, they aren’t scared to play with other children at any age.

DO YOU SHARE ANY SIMILARITIES WITH YOUR CHILD? (BOTH PHYSICAL & PERSONALITY) – Kai and Robin both have my grey eyes, I don’t think personality whys they share any with me, but I think Kai is as shy as I was as a child.

WHERE WOULD YOU LIKE YOUR CHILD TO BE IN 10 YEARS? – I would like them to just be happy, what more could you ask for.

IS THERE SOMETHING THAT HAVING A CHILD HAS TAUGHT YOU? – I feel like they taught me not to take any shit from anyone, I am a lot stronger than I think I am thanks to them.

DID YOU IMAGINE YOU’D BE A MUM AT THE AGE YOU BECOME A MUM? – Not really, Kai was an accident.. I sort of hoped to be married and have a house before I had my first child but unfortunately we did things backwards

DESCRIBE YOUR CHILD IN ONE SENTENCE?

Kai – Shy, Excitable, Helpful

Amelia – Artistic, Kind, Emotional

Robin – Outgoing, Funny, Small.

HOW HAVE YOU CHANGED AS A PERSON SINCE BECOMING A MUM? – I think I have become more exhausted, I no longer have the time to do things I wanted to do, I had just started to get a little bit of me back and then had Robin so everything went back to square one.

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I tag

Becca

Clare

Stacy

Vicki

Kirsty

All the best

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Another month gone which means one thing, Another Glossybox, last months box did get a little ignored, mainly because my month was so busy with the summer holidays and the fact we went away, so I decided to not do July’s and share you Augusts.

This months box is all about Pride, the box is a beautiful rainbow and is full of amazing products that are full size,and all designed to bring more love and vibrancy into your life.

Whats In The Box… 

Ink Me Stamp and Sticker Tattoos – 

An adorable heart stamp and some sparkly sticker tattoos? what more could you ask for, Perfect for festival time and of course for the Pride events going on over the country, Amelia has been enjoying the heart stamp and I have to admit I do love it too, The sticker tattoos just remind me of my childhood when I had become obsessed with stick on tattoos and covered my body with them, they are beautiful, pretty and of course fun.

Victoria Secret’s PINK Selfie Skin Sheet Mask – 

Not being much a fan of sheet masks, I always find them to be to sticky for my skin, but I like this one, the mask itself is full of wonderful coconut oil and makes your skin super soft, I put mine on after a bath and it was lovely to cool down and calm my skin down with this lovely mask, and itself being the first piece of Victoria Secret products I have owned, so that’s a plus.

Trifle Cosmetics Lip & Cheek Jam –

I love this stuff, I feel that I have mentioned many times before that I am the biggest of makeup newbies, but I really like this, it gives a subtle pink hue, almost a natural color which I think is perfect. I adore the packaging and thanks to Glossybox have received other Trifle Cosmetic products in the past. Honestly they are both amazing and of course they are vegan friendly and cruelty free.

 

Kaledio Cosmetics Astrolight Highlighter – 

Highlighers are one of those things I don’t know how to use, purely because I don’t think I have ever brought any, but this is why these boxes are great, so you can try new things out and learn new things about makeup. The one thing I know about this product is that it smells AM-AZ-ING! it has a beautiful fruity scent and I cannot get enough of it.

3INA The Shadow Paint 703 – 

Before I start with this product, I adore the packaging, it reminds me of course of a little tube of paint. The shadow itself is such a dark blue, I don’t know if I could wear it myself as I am more of a mascara and go girl, but I think the fact that liquid shadows are a thing now, easy to put on and to remove, but knowing me I ended up getting it all over my fingers.

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Bring on September, which judging by the little sneak peak is all about change and eyebrows! I cant wait.

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Feeding, Not Judging!

Something wonderful happened a few months ago, Midwives are now no longer going to pressure women into breastfeeding if they choose not to, and its about time that this is a thing, there are to many stories on the internet of Midwives and other health professionals not even bothering to help mum’s with their choice in feeding their baby, or even making them feel like they are doing something wrong with not choosing to breastfeed.

Now, they are there to help and its fantastic, women shouldn’t be judged for how they choose to feed their baby. which is why I am a strong supporter of the Fed is Best campaigns, while breast milk is the natural way if a women decides that they wish to use formula instead for whatever reason she will be supported and helped, given information on the safe ways to do it and hopefully now given a crash course in making bottles and using sterilizers.

Things No One Tells you..

When I gave birth to Kai, I was determined to breastfeed, I struggled badly even in the hospital while being man handled by the midwives who got tiny drops out from my sore boobs, I begged them to give me some formula but I was told time and again, while in tears, that I ‘had enough milk for my son’ and how important it was to breastfeed with posters everywhere stating that only the best parents start their babies lives out right with breastmilk. we was discharged, and still not feeding properly, they were just happy that I had been to the toilet after my epidural than wither or not my son was getting everything he needed, he was turning orange but I was told to put him in sunlight and he should get better.

What they don’t tell you is the best way to help improve jaundice is through feeding, enabling the body to flush it out, sunlight only did half the job.

I was sent home, exhausted with sore nipples and crying at every feed, it wasn’t until my midwife who saw me through my pregnancy came to do the usual visit and saw just how orange Kai was and how my mental health was slowly deteriorating and told me it would be best to artificially feed him, she saw how much we was struggling and helped, gave advice and despite the heartbreak of not being able to feed him, got him healthy and that’s all that mattered.

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I have always felt shy about my opinions on feeding, I have always experienced negativity whenever I fed in public with formula, I have dealt with being told I was poisoning my child that he would grow up stupid because I hadn’t given him my milk, which the way it dried up there wasn’t much there to begin with but now, now more people are being open and honest with it, not just formula mum’s but breastfeeding mum’s are being proud of showing that they feel that fed is best above all, mental health of the mother and the safe feeding of the baby is more important than where the milk comes from itself.

and that’s now going to come from the most important people who help you bring these tiny humans into the world, no more judging, no more pushing, MUM’S KNOW BEST and that’s final! They will respect your choices like they should do.

Education is BEST!

Educating women on how to safely feed their baby regardless of how they choose to feed is so important, educating them on how to safely make a bottle of formula or even how to safely clean bottles should be a part of it. I remember being left on my own when I had Amelia and they used a cold water sterilizer while I had only ever used a steam microwave one and no one was willing to help me, show me how to use it because of the ‘breast is best’ movement and I was made to feel so guilty for not choosing what was ‘best’ for my baby, with Robin they thankfully started making pre-made bottles and I used them, but not sharing how to use this strange sterilizer felt so off and unfair.

We are made to feel guilty no matter how we choose to feed and its going to be wonderful to be able to give birth and feed however it suits us.

Support all mothers with their choices and never EVER judge someone for it, I know I dont turn my nose up at a woman breastfeeding their baby in the park as I hope she would return the favor not to make a judgement because I choose to formula.. have pride in what you do but please be more understanding of others who may have struggled here you have succeeded.. we are all in this journey together and should support and stand by one another regardless.

Until next time

For more information on what Fed Is Best does then find them on twitter here and website here, what they try to stress is that they aren’t about formula, they support all mothers regardless of how they feed which I feel some do not understand.

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Back to Cool!

Back to school shopping can be one of the single stressful times of the summer holiday, I find it so hard to squeeze in the time to do the all important shopping which, as we all know, can be an expensive time depending where you get everything from.

We are normally a Next shopper with uniforms, but this year I wanted to try something a little different and test out the school uniform range at Debenhams, and to my surprise they are wonderful!.

The range all being available online it is even easier to order up and get ready without heading out into the masses, and what with all the panic stricken parents desperately preparing for the all important September term dates it is so much easier to simply log on and order.

Price is Important

One of the things that is so important with back to school shopping, is always the price of everything on top of all the other extra little bits that go along with it, but Debenhams delivers fantastic quality school uniforms at a purse friendly price with various multi packs, and if you are like me having more than one child to buy for, the lower the price is always better, but a danger is always that you take away any quality when reaching for the bargains, but not here.

Lots of Options

If you are anything like me than you love a little bit of variety with what your children wear in school. Debenhams has such a good collection of uniform. From a wide selection of skirts and pinafores for the girls and for the boys, trousers or shorts along with two types of shirt styles.

What I liked most about the range of school uniform was the fact that they also included rain coats and bags all on the website. In all in different colors so that you can find something perfect for whatever school your child goes too. Debenhams has everything from primary school age to secondary school age sizes, which is great for when you are ordering for more than one child in different school years.

Also what I found perfect was they also supplied underwear, PE kits and shoes so you essentially can get everything in one shop, which is fantastic, if you like me have more than one child which can make shopping be a murder.

I cannot express enough to those I meet, just how wonderful the quality of the jumpers are. Now that the children are going into the autumn term with things getting colder, their jumpers will be worn daily and be put under a lot of stress. The shirts feel soft and of course having two different designs for girls and boys, although you could buy the same style if you aren’t picky like me. The skirts and trousers look smart, each having a inner elastic band to help fit your child. Which is handy when children do not all follow the same growing patterns.

The shirts themselves, which you will be delighted to hear, are machine washable and able to go into the tumble dryer for those cold and wet days in the autumn/winter term.

I am delighted we decided to test out a different company for the children’s school uniforms this year, and I feel like we are all prepared for the new term ahead.

Are you all set for the new term? just over three weeks to go!!

 

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Disclaimer - This blogpost is part of a Debenhams Back to School campaign, thoughts and opinions are my own.