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The Perfect Age Gap?

Is there really one? I have read a few blogs about when its the right time to have another baby, add to the family and I do wonder if there is ever a ‘right time’ and does the perfect age gap exist?

My three children have a mix of age gaps, K is 18 months older than A and obviously R is 5 years younger than A.. and if I am honest, I prefer the large age gap than the smaller one.. and actually, considering how broody I get, do not wish for a smaller age gap again..

The one thing I regret with having A so close to K, is probably the fact that I didnt get to enjoy A growing, she suddenly went from a newborn to one in a blink of an eye, where as K.. him getting to a year was so slow, I do love their age gaps, and I do love how well they do play together and will grow up as friends as well as siblings..

But I wish I had waited just a little bit longer, much like how I did with R, we had a plan to wait until I was working and then start trying, she was a little accident haha, but the gap was what we wanted the most.. so that when A went to school I had time to play and deal with R..

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but the question of whether a small gap or a large gap is best, is really a personal choice, I know many who have one baby after another with only a few months gap between each pregnancy (The Radford’s for an example) and I wonder, how they have time for each child.. when I felt like I barely had any with just two..img_3718as I said before, its a personal thing.. and having done both a small and a large gap, I know which one I prefer.. and I guess if another accident would happen, I would of course just deal with it.. but theres no way I am adding to our family until R is much older..

There is only so much mummy to hand around…

Would you have a small age gap? or do you have one?.. please comment below..

Until next time

Mummy Cat.

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Guest Post – Parenting Fails – My Girls and Me

Welcome to a my guest post series in which I ask other wonderful parenting bloggers what their biggest, funniest parent fail is! Up first we have a wonderful blogger, Her name is Becca and you can find her over at My Girls and Me.

My Parenting Fail.

My fail consists of lots of things being taken back and exchanged.. OOPS.

Through the rest of my pregnancy with Rosie, I LOVED the name Anna-Belle. I was in love. I would tell everyone her name was Anna-Belle and i was never going to change it. I would call her in while i spoke to her in the womb and i people would actually refer to her as Anna-Belle.

Well, i gave birth all nice and smoothly and the moment she came out i looked straight at her dad and said she does not look like an Anna-Belle. We sat for ages and tried to think of names we liked but nothing suited till the midwife said “Oh what lovely rosy cheeks she has.” and boom it clicked. We announced her birth and when it said “Rosie-Belle” everyone was confused (oops haha!) a few people even had to return gifts that had said the name on it. (Sorry everyone)

That is my most biggest parenting fail, even to the point where we had Miyahs name picked out and there was no way on this earth it was being changed because of Miyahs dad but people still refused to till i gave birth and she was actually names Miyah.
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Dealing with a dairy allergy..

When you are pregnant you are told two things, one that you are breastfeeding and two you can use formula if you want, but what never comes up is what if your baby has a dairy allergy..

Back when my son was born, it wasn’t even talked about, it took me 6 months to finally get a diagnoses and a prescription of lactose free formula from the doctor… and all it took was for me to be given a tub from a friend who’s son also suffered with dairy allergies.

My poorly little boy was sick, crying and not very happy for the first six months of his life, we all didn’t know what to do, had many talks with doctors and they all kept telling me it was a reflux, but what a surprise, none of the reflux medicine worked! he was sick all the time after a bottle, often bringing up half of what he took in, but he was gaining weight so they didn’t worry… but once I got some lactose free formula into him, he stopped throwing up, he stopped crying all the time and he started being a happy baby for a change..

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When we had A, we knew that there was a possibility that she would have the same issues, but we didn’t expect that she would not only be able to have lactose, but dairy itself,  and when she was around 12 weeks old, after being sick all the time while using regular formula and lactose free, my health visitor recommended I switch to soya.. and she stopped being sick, she was pretty much dairy free up until she started primary school and we decided to try her on regular milk and she thankfully had grown out of it!

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R was a completely different story, expecting that again we would deal with another child with a similar problem, but she didn’t, besides being a tiny baby, she had nothing wrong with her.. and I was so glad to be able to deal with a normal baby for a change..

What I think surprised me more is how many others dealt with the same issues as what we had.. here are a few below..

My son was diagnosed with milk and egg allergies at 5m, following a massive vomiting episode after having eaten a spoonful of plain yogurt as part of the weaning process. He’d always had a bit of a rash, even when I was exclusively BF, but we didn’t think anything of it as neither of our families have a history of allergies. The dietician first put him on one hydrolysed formula, which smelled and tasted awful, then on another, to which he took really well. I still BF until he was 8m old (and still ate dairy and eggs), but since I have stopped, he has slept through and his skin is miles better. We cope really well with it; he basically eats everything we do (I cook everything from scratch at home anyway), but if I include milk or eggs in our foods I substitute with formula and starch in his. When I bake cakes for him I use vegan recipes, which taste okay. The only pain is going out for food, where I tend to err on the side of caution and either go for a buffet, where I can assemble non-dairy foods or resort to an emergency jar – How to rock at parenting

My two boys (3 years and ten weeks) both have milk allergy. The eldest was diagnosed when he was almost two and my youngest when he was 2 weeks. It’s almost been harder second time round as even though I know what to expect I had such a fight for him to be diagnosed and get the right formula (very hit and miss trying different ones including thickeners) where as we are in a routine with Freddie and he loves his oat milk of a morning – Ready, Freddie, Go!

Mummy and Liss share their experiences with CMPA and how difficult it can be.

I really wish doctors would listen to mothers when it comes to their children, parents are often the ones who spot things and knows their children, and I had a few people tell me ‘are you sure’ when it came to A and her allergy, I know my child, I know she had a problem.

Please share your struggles with getting a diagnoses, or if you have been diagnosed, share some wonderful recpies for some dairy free food!

Until next time

Mummy Cat

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Two children down..

This weekend my mum has taken K and A, leaving Mr S and I with R..
Now usually when the older two are at home, it’s hard work, even with two parents, we are out numbered and arguments often occur..

I honestly forgot how easy life was with a single child at home, don’t get me wrong I enjoy the challenge of three, but it’s been so easy to run to the toilet without worrying what the three of them will get up to, washing has been put on and I managed to deep clean the bathroom, something that I shamefully haven’t done in a while..


I know by the night time, when I go to bed, I’ll miss them, they won’t be in their beds for me to kiss before I go to sleep and they won’t wake me up in the morning demanding breakfast at 5am..

I will just have R..

They are, or at least they can be, a great help too.. helping me get nappies, getting rubbish in the bins and helping me out with R..

But goodness they argue sometimes, with each other and with me hah!

I get them back on Monday morning when my mum goes into work, I hope they are having a fantastic time, they FaceTimed me earlier and A was cooking dinner (Lamb Mince with sweet mash) and K was busy reading Harry Potter (which I had passed down to him the other night, ‘I’m on chapter _’ he yells).

I love my babies so much but sometimes, I think time away from them is good for you, or you can become so stressed.. 

I am going to enjoy my two quiet evenings, playing some games and relaxing.

Until next time

Mummy Cat.

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Children and Swearing…

As a mother, one of the biggest things that really bother me is when I over hear conversations parents have in front of their children and the language that comes out of their mouths..

Its honestly shocking and embarrassing that they are busy swearing and talking away while innocent ears are within listening distance… I think it bothers me more when, us as parents go out of our way not to swear around their children but they cant even contain themselves from doing it in front of mine..

I know once a child enters school they are bombarded by new words and new children who will not shy away from uttering rude words regularly with out a shred of care.. I remember doing it myself at the sweet age of 8, talking to a girl called Fiona who introduced me to the world of swears and now I know that it wasn’t her fault she knew all these words, but her parents, so once I had my own children, I tried my hardest to keep the swear words to a minimum..

Fast forward to when A was in pre-school, she came home one day and said a word I never would dream of using, its the vile word that begins with C, and I honestly couldn’t believe it, I had no idea where she got it from, until I over heard some chatter and heard the word be passed around so freely..

I don’t understand how its difficult to not use certain words around children, they are like sponges and pick anything up, K once said the F word after hearing me use it once as I dropped something in the kitchen, I didn’t even think he heard me but around Christmas time, he said it and thankfully after we explained to him that he shouldn’t say it, he hasn’t said it since from what I am aware of..

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It isn’t hard to just stop and think before saying things in front of children, even myself will injure myself and in-between a curse change the word to another one.. and then you hear people talk and every other word is a swear word…

I know that everyone parents differently, but I wish people would hold their tongue when surrounded by children, we went to a pub for a meal a few weeks ago and a group of increasingly drunk men kept swearing, without a second thought of their surroundings..

Children don’t need to hear these words, let alone use them.. and I now understand why the strongest word I ever heard my mum use, even today is mild in comparison to what I hear weekly out and about..

What is the one thing that bothers you with being a parent?

Until next time

Mummy Cat.

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Amelia’s first haircut!

Believe it or not, My middle child has never had her hair cut, so we decided to take the opportunity of the summer holidays to book up an appointment and have something done about her long hair.
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As you can see, the tips of her hair almost settle at her bottom! This is five years worth of growth, we decided to go to Pamper Box which is a local salon, and its always great to support local stores.

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She sat so wonderfully, letting Catherine cut away at her hair, I feel super proud that she didn’t kick up a fuss and moved her head about when she was told as she does have a habit of being a bit grumpy when told to move haha.

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And there is the cut, a huge difference, she honestly looks like a completely different child now, and she likes it, I asked for it to be long enough to tie up when she goes back to school, as we all know about those little creatures that live in children’s hair are a constant worry but short enough that its a big difference and should cause her hair to thicken up.

I am mildly sad about it, we had just learnt how to do a fishtail braid, but I am excited to learn some wonderful short hair styles for her.

They even let me keep the bits that was cut off… for voodoo of course..

Mummy Cat

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I don’t think a ban is the answer – Internet Privacy

The daily mail has once again appeared in my line of sight, and its covering a subject that I hold dear to my heart, the internet and privacy..

Over the past week Victoria Beckham held a birthday party at Buckingham Palace and of course like any excited parent has been snapping away photos and sharing them onto her social medias to share to the world her pride of her child, but according to The Daily Mail Stella McCartney is ‘furious’ that her child’s image has been publicly shared without her apparent permission.

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and I get it, I understand the annoyance when people share images of your children in a public manner without even asking first, I have an issue with anyone sharing photos of my children without a simple ‘oh can I do this’ and I even get weird about family sharing their photos onto their Facebook from mine, purely because I have a very private Facebook page, but they might not be as secure.

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But to outright ban someone for stopping posting their photographs of their children on their own social medias? its a bit extreme, I am all for protecting the children and keeping them off public social media websites but I cannot control them from not doing it, I don’t agree sharing images of children in a place that can be accessed by anyone, and I mean anyone, there are whole communities on Instagram that ‘kidnap’ images of children and use in role playing adoptions which can come across as innocent but a lot of the times, they are taking images from you and surely you can stop that by not posting images publicly? – Just recently Chelsea Houska (DeBoer) of Teen Mom 2 fame had her son Watson’s photographs stolen from her public Instagram and used in another page for a sympathy post, its utterly disturbing..

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I don’t agree that we should ban parents for sharing their children online, as long as its done privately and considering social media is far from the most private thing you could use there are plenty of ways of protecting them until they can make that choice themselves.

I don’t mind sharing images to family, and that’s primarily what my Facebook and Instagram is about, I have a public Instagram but you will never see my children’s faces on there, but if you share an image, with children in it that some are not your own, you should always ask permission from the parents.. regardless of who you are and how many followers you have..

What do you think? shall we ban parents from sharing images of their children on social media?. do you have a private Instagram or public one and aren’t afraid of where your children’s images might end up?

Until next time

Mummy Cat

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